Freaked out about your partner watching porn? Here are a few tips

Porn sites have become a staple for many who have a desire to get a fix from the plethora of smut available for netizens.

The stats are intriguing for the global aspect and here are a few stats:

• Enough porn was watched in 2016 to fill up 194,000,000 USB sticks.
• Pornhub got 28.5 BILLION visits in 2017. That’s almost 1,000 visits a second, or 78.1 million a day  – or four and a half times the population of Zimbabwe

In Zimbabwe, an adult site, xvideos, sits comfortably in the top 10.

Easy to say, porn is very popular.

But yet, even though the taboo is seen in some spaces has disappeared, having a porn habit can be a source of conflict in a relationship

So we have a few tips for a person in a relationship with someone into porn.

• There is nothing really wrong with porn: Yes, you may come from a conservative background. But there is really nothing wrong with watching adults having sex. The Romans did it in person. It is known to relieve stress and in some cases even healthy. For some, exploring their sexuality has helped them find things they liked.
• There are problems with the industry but… Yes there are issues and exploitation stories can leave you aghast. But there are schools of porn such as ethical porn which focus on fairness with a more realistic sexual experiences.
• It’s not personal: Just because your partner wants to view pornography, it doesn’t mean they have lost interest in you.
• Don’t blame porn for your problems: You could be going through a difficult moment in the relationship and it can be easy to find something to blame for the inadequacy. Also the issues may be connected to your sex life but what you want to do is make sure there is an understanding of the relationship as it stands.
• Find a way to make it work: So maybe you don’t want to see your partner viewing porn. Maybe ask only that they view it alone for example.
• But also… If it is a really sticking point (oh gosh that was open) then have the difficult discussion creating boundaries. If the relationship has to end do not feel as if you are weird. Everyone has boundaries.

All the best.

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