Why Your Man May Still Use Sex Workers

So you have a great man who takes care of all your needs and the works and then one day, donkey years down the line you find out that he curb crawls on Josiah Chinamano Avenue looking for women who sell, well, bodily wares.

Or you have a horrible to average guy and you find out that he occasionally pays for sex.

Just so we keep it clear, there is nothing weird about men paying for sex. After all a relationship between a man and woman often-times is transaction-based.He pays for stuff and his chances of getting some goes up. After all, there is a reason why the opening line for Chris Brown’s Loyal is, When a rich n*gga wants you…

However what we are talking about here, is where the dude pays for services. This could be by way of him paying for certain needs she has at that moment. We know guys who simply paid for her ride home because she was stranded and she hooked. She needed cash and she provided a service. She may not be an active worker but she got what she wanted. Walking away, she feels like she earned it and does not owe him anything.

So then the question is why do men like women who make themselves available for money? We will go with three reasons:

Something is wrong. It doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with you. In fact, most of the time, it doesn’t have to do with the partner unless she is just denying him conjugal needs and he just could not be bothered to have a relationship on the side. Some may even be related to past horrors as a child that need to go checking. It’s like a serial killer who needs a fix. He wants an outlet.
Power. They – we have no idea who they are by the way – say that everything is about sex, except sex. Sex is about power. So when he makes a purchase he feels power over her because she will do anything he wants. He paid for it, so why shouldn’t she? That need for power is made more serious if he feels like doesn’t have any at home.
Addiction. Some en are just addicted to commercial sex workers. Weird? No. It’s like porn. They just do it. It is probably linked to reason number 1.

The thing is, most men who use the services of sex workers feel empty afterwards. They have a sense of self-worth. As much as they think we are using the person who are doing it with, they feel used too.

That is not to suggest that there are no men who simply like prostitutes for company. It’s a pretend girlfriend who can ‘like’ them. Remember too that paying a person feels like hush-money.

Can you do something about it? Well, probably not. Just hope he doesn’t catch something and bring it home. That is after hoping he doesn’t do it in the first place.

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